Raising Devils

I tuck my son under my arm and carry him like a piece of luggage… but he’s still small enough to do that (just barely). And there’s only one of him.

Nat and Kira have done that. I’ve just very calmly gotten the others in the car and said goodbye to the one who wants to stay. Next, I back out of the garage, shut the garage door, and pretended to leave. Then, after a couple of minutes I go back. Suddenly, the resistant girl is ready to come. I don’t know if that would work for Wyatt, but it works great with Nat and Kira. Tia hasn’t tried it yet…If she gives me any trouble I say goodbye to her and she RACES to the car. I realize that in a couple of more years, this won’t work any more, but by then, Nat will be old enough to stay home for an hour or so by herself… Have you left Sam home by himself, yet? Nat is begging to be “unsupervised.” (I was unsupervised at 8 for a couple of hours afterschool each day and I babysat my nephew… remember the time we almost forgot him at your pool? Heh!)

i’m sure this is a parenting no-no but when desperate i resort to the tried-and-true candy bribe. fortunately my daughter hasn’t needed it often enough to become a bad habit or a demand on her part but it does work…probably especially in our case as we almost never eat candy aside from chocolate. a lollipop will get her motivated to do anything.

We do leave Sam! He’s been fine. I’ll even leave him with another child, although not with all of them, unless I am back in the woods, as opposed to out in the car. I was left alone at 6 after school for a couple of hours, if I checked in with a neighbor. It seems fine to me! I do remember leaving Brett…and yeah, i’ve done that, but I had a sense it wasn’t going to work that time, and I didn’t want that. Plus, if you go back, the ones in the car won’t be fooled next time, right?

I would give lots of warning beforehand (we have to go in 15 mins, we have to go in 10 mins etc). Then, if one of mine would refuse to go, I would acknowledge that it’s not much fun to leave her toys etc to go in the car, but we really need to go. Maybe tell her that I’d rather stay too (and read my book etc). I would tell her how proud I was that she was getting ready to go and do something she didn’t want to do.

I would suggest reading this book (Hold On To Your Kids):

http://www.gordonneufeld.com/book.php