Monday, June 29th, 2009 | Connecting the Dots


We are one sleepy family–what a day. Rory came to the hotel with three women she’d never met before today, and no one from her foster home. When we came in she was wailing–in English–I want to go home! I knelt down and started whispering in her ear–I knew her foster mother had told her that this was ok, that she could go with us and we would take good care of her, and she let me pick her up, still shaking. Our orig. three were quite chastened…then they needed to do a passport photo. Oh not, not in the dress she was wearing. A dark dress. Fortunately she had a dress we had sent her in her bag, and we talked her into letting us put in on over her head. Then she had to stand–no, not there, here, can’t she look us? Tilt her head, take out her hairclip,s show her ears…
She got through it. Then a family photo–no, her arms have to be showing…
Ok then. Then we were sent off for a few hours of getting to know her. For the first 20 minutes she ate candy. Her foster family knew her well–they’d put about 5 packs of gummies in her backpack and she went through four of them and two lollipops. But then she was on the floor, rifling through her and the kids’ things. She would come back for a hit of candy or a look at her picture book–that was super important. We knew we were in when she offered to share her candy.
She prefers me but accepts Rob. She calls him Daddy, and sometimes Baba. The person she did NOT want was the adoption coordinator, who I think had thought she had seen everything until she saw Rory roll through Wal-mart in a cart like a princess, confidently asking for things in English. She has us down. When she played in the tub and Lily asked for her goggles, Rory–who was going under water and popping up with no problem, laughing–took one look at the pink glasses and said “where me, Mama?” She was right–of course I had a pair for her, just the same.
She wants to do everything herself until she can’t, and then she asks. Can you help me, mama? I can’t do this. But woe to anyone who tries to help before she asks. Spitfire. Lily all over again. But after you help? Thank you, Mama.
We did have to go back up to the room where we met, to fill out some forms. I was worried–I thought she might think she was going back–so I got down and reminded her that she came with us, and she would leave with us, even if the people from this morning were there. Which they were. She looked at them carefully. And then she got up and started dancing on the coffee table.
Apparently that’s our girl.

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10 Comments to

ellen
Monday, June 29, 2009

Hooray! So glad you made it to Rory. Sounds like she is adjusting well and is a real spitfire! Shannon’s girl had to be changed into colorful dress for the photo too – I better pack one! Thanks for sharing with us –

Misty
Monday, June 29, 2009

Tears of joy for you and your family!! What an amazing story she has–you ALL have–in your journey to Rebekah/Rory. Thank you for sharing her with us.

JK
Monday, June 29, 2009

I am so happy for you. The tears are welling up in my eyes. Just lovely.

Liesinthenetherlands
Monday, June 29, 2009

Happy happy happy happy!!!!

Looks like you’ve made it!

Dawn
Monday, June 29, 2009

Congratulations what a wonderful famiy you have!

Enjoy yourselves!!!

Diane
Monday, June 29, 2009

love it. great descriptions. what for about day 3… oh I love day 3… that is usually when in adoption world the child opens up and relaxes and and just lets guard down. I like day three… it feels more like home. She seems as thought she likes you all and it helps so much to have other children around. I recall adopting my second it helping having my first who was 4 years old. Enjoy your trip and soak it all in. If you did not already don’t throw the newspaper away from the day you adopted her/received her. I always thought it was a great keepsake for my daughters to have a bit of the local news from the day they enter our family. Just an idea. If not maybe pick up a newspaper on the day you get her Visa…just as an important day. Best wishes,

Lisen
Tuesday, June 30, 2009

It still blows me away that her first language is English. What a difference that will make for her transition (and yours). She is beautiful and sounds like a little sparkler like my girls. Enjoy your time together in Fuzhou!

Lisen

Amanda
Tuesday, June 30, 2009

I have been following you since before you left on RQ. The Quarantine is over. Phew! And just to see you and your kids on your lap, that’s the image I think you envisioned from the beginning. I loved seeing the pictures of your kids together!

Nancy Ann Wartman
Tuesday, June 30, 2009

We’ve been following along and are so glad your family is now whole and happy! Things will only get better and better!!! :-) CONGRATULATIONS!!

Ninotchka
Wednesday, July 1, 2009

So so happy you’re all together. xxoo

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